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                                       Five mantras to help                                                              system then what would be the condi-  role of the lifeline of this loop.   become more stressed. This again goes

                                                                                                                                                                                         on in a loop.
                                                                                                                                                           And on top of it, parents and chil-
                                                                                                                         tion of students who are constantly
                                                                                                                                                                                            Here, I present some humble sug-
                                       beat exam stress                                                                  experiencing the pressure, constant   dren are constantly being exposed to   gestions for the children and parents
                                                                                                                                                         news, social media and suggestion and
                                                                                                                         sermons, comparisons with other
                                                                                                                                                         advices given by peers and relatives.
                                                                                                                         students, negative influences, sarcasm,
                                                                                                                                                                                         which might help them during stressful
                                                                                                                         unrest and tiredness.           What I mean to say is that in real-  times:
                                                                                                                           There was a time when one wouldn’t  ity exams may not be tough but the
                                       It’s so stressful to talk just once in a while about studies and exams.           hear words like ‘stress’ and ‘depression’   information and energies surrounding   Yashica Jalhotra’s boss has given her
         Being You                     What would be the condition of students who constantly experience                 until spending 50 years of his or her life  the students become so stressful and   another ‘stressful’ project and she was just
                                                                                                                                                                                           seen taking out a depression pill from her
                                                                                                                         but now every other person and child is  negative that exams become a demon
                                       the pressure, lengthy sermons, negative influences and tiredness!                 stressed. The parents are stressed so the  for them.               drawer. Send her some wisdom, I mean
         Yashica                                                                                                         child is stressed. The child is stressed   And the worst part is that this fear,   letters at letters@tehelka.com
         Jalhotra                                                                                                        so the parents are stressed. This is a   stress and anxiety are not helping them
                                                                                                                         viscous loop and exams are playing the  in mastering the syllabus and then they   letters@tehelka.com
                                                ah! They are here again.   speech against the Indian methodology
         The writer, currently                  Can’t they choose a better   of imparting education to children and
         Editor (Digital Media),                time to come? It’s been a   adults. At first I thought he had prepared                           Understand what makes                              Listen to the PM: When
         is noted for giving witty              celebratory and joyous time   an essay for his upcoming English                                  you stressed: Sometimes                            even the Prime Minister
         tips on current issues,       A for the last three months       Board Exam but he just went on and                                      it’s not the exam which is                         of your country wants
         lifestyle, health, love,      and now suddenly I have to become   on. I just wanted to tell him that he has                             troubling you but some                             you to be stress-free
         parenting, behaviour,         serious, focused and boring. I celebrated   already spoken enough to get ten out of                       other thought or experi-                           wduring exams don’t
         inner-self, spirituality,     New Year until Lohri and then I looked   ten marks, that if he utilizes his intelli-                      ence. Find out the original                        you think you should at
         beliefs,relationships         forward to Holi in March. Where do   gence in studies he will get not good but                            cause of your pain and                             least listen to him? PM
         and everything else           the horrible exams fit in all these happy   great marks. But I didn’t dare to utter a                     instead of putting it on ex-                       Modi has been stressing
         under the sun.                moments?                          single word as it would lead to another                                 ams deal with it directly.                         on stress-free exams and
                                         “Oh! By the way I forgot tell that Arpit   discussion and would take away an-                           Are you really stressed                            has even written a book
                                       has stormed into my house. Yes. Yet   other one hour of mine, along with two                              or is it just that everyone                        ‘Exam Warriors’ in which
                                       again. Do I need to tell you that this time   more cups of tea from my kitchen.                           around you is making you                           he advises parents and
                                       his latest subject of cribbing is exams?”  And finally when he went back to                               stressed? Ask yourself.                            students to face exams
                                         Me: But why do you have to be sad   his place I was left with just one thing—                                                                              sans stress.
                                       during exams? Why can’t you be as joy-  stress. What do you think his long,
                                       ous as you were during celebration?  unstoppable complaints against teach-
                                         Arpit: As if you have never appeared   ers, parents, authorities and his own
                                       for any exam in India. Do you think   friends would have given me? For the                       Get educated in the power
                                       what you saying is practical?     first time, I realized the true meaning of                     of the mind: If it’s not exams
                                         Me: Yeah. But.. Listen. May be…  the saying-                                                   it will be something else. Life
                                         So, he had a point and I was short of   ‘You become what you are surround-                     may be full of challenges.
                                       words.                            ed with’                                                       You and your child need to
                                         Before I could even engage my mind   But that also made me think if I am                       learn how to handle every
                                       in fabricating a false happy education   so stressed with a once in a while talk                 situation. That’s where edu-
                                       system of India, he was all set with his   about studies, exams and the education                cation in the power of mind
                                                                                                                                        comes. Your mind has the
                                                                                                                                        capacity to give you stress   Accept challenges with a smile: It is what it is. Frowning is not going
                                                                                                                                        or happiness from the same   to benefit you in any form now but smiling can. Be more joyful and see
                                                                                                                                        event. Get this power    how things start happening for you.


                                                                                                                                                                            Believe in your success: Adopt ‘NO Matter what comes’
                                                                                                                                                                            attitude. If you have unconditional belief in your success,
                                                                                                                                                                            no fear or stress can ever come near you. Develop the
                                                                                                                                                                            attitude of believing in your strengths and capabilities.
                                                                                                                                                                            You have all the resources you need to excel in life.
                                                                                                                                                                            Exams are just a testing phase like other challenges
                                                                                                                                                                            which may come later in your life. And you know what.
                                                                                                                                                                            You can clear all!



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